Daddy Up! Birth Class
Are you looking for some great birth tips to be that strong man by your wife's side at birth? I can help you feel confident and ready to support your wife at birth. You have the option of a class in your home or a group class.
Daddy Up! Birth Class
You are so excited because your big day is approaching. Soon you will be a father! You might be a little worried about how to support your wife, but it is pretty simple. You can do it in two simple steps.
1. Take your power back and step up. Find your voice and learn how to stand for your wife and family. Too often men want to protect their family, but are unsure how or they are treated as if they are dumb and incapable of understanding. The tool you can use is called B.R.A.N.D.
B: BENEFITS....."What are the benefits to your suggestion?"
R: RISKS....."What are the risks of what you are suggesting?"
A: ALTERNATIVES...."Are there any other options?"
N: NOW/NOT NOW/NEVER...."What happens if we follow your suggestion right now? What happens if we do your suggestion on another day? What happens if we never do your suggestion?"
D: DECISION....."Thank you for the information. Please step out of the room and we will let you know our decision in a couple of minutes."
Let me share an example with you.... You take your Mac laptop in for its yearly cleaning. When you come back the next day to get it, the clerk tells you they decided you are not a Mac person and have a Dell laptop for you and it will only cost an extra $1000. What do you do? Do you say thank you, pay the money, take the Dell and leave? Hopefully you will stay and stand your ground. First, ask about the benefits of their suggestion. Next, ask about the risks of taking the Dell and not your Mac. After that ask if they have any other models available. Then, talk to them about what will happen if you don't take the Dell now and demand your old laptop back. Finally, you tell them that you will make a decision and get back to them in a minute.
This might seem like a silly story, but this happens often in the world. We lose our power to decide and others decide what is best for us while using fear or lack of correct information to make us comply. You will see this time and time again in pregnancy, during birth, at the pediatrician, at your child's school, etc. At the hospital, you are the consumer. You are paying for it and should get to choose what happens or at least be part of the decision making team. Show everyone that you care and that they will need to answer your questions before proceeding.
2. Help her relax and feel safe. You will use this skill to help maintain a great marriage. As her spouse you have the chance to observe her and learn what irritates her and what makes her happy. To help her have a faster and easier birth, she needs to let go of her concerns and just focus on laboring. Scientifically, she needs to make a brain center switch and can't do it without feeling safe.
Ask yourself these questions:
What movie does my wife like?
Where and how does she like to be massaged?
What treats does she like to eat or drink?
What irritates her?
What music does she like?
How does she like to be held?
How do I make her laugh?
How does she relieve her stress?
If you would like to learn the above tips and more, contact us for a fun class and Daddy up!
Dad’s are engaged in pregnancy and birth now more than ever before. However, if you’re like many men, you may feel unprepared or even unwelcome in the birth room. Finally, a class for new dads that deciphers the immensely confusing world of birth and gives crucial tips and advice from a man's point of view. No warm fuzzies-just a good simple guy's prep (and surprisingly practical) to surviving and thriving through even the queasiest moments of birth and babyhood.
Experienced doula Amanda breaks the Birth Code down and lays it out in straight-up guyspeak. The Daddy up! Birth Prep provides rich, holistic pre- and post- partum tools that help you work through the wild yet wonderful world of birth and parenthood, including:.
awakening your Daddy Power
understanding childbirth and the birth plan
navigating the hospital
caring for baby at home
opening communication with your partner